the space between good bye & hello
from princess to queen
I began the divorce process legally last year, but internally, the process had begun many years before. This year, I am legally divorced and amicably co-parenting our four children.
Contrary to what others may think, divorce doesn't arrive like lightning striking—you don't simply wake up one morning, struck by a single isolated event, and declare "today is the day." Instead, a monumental decision like divorce comes first as small intuitive nudges—a quiet voice deep within your soul whispering, "this isn't where you belong forever."
Often we busy ourselves with outside circumstances to silence that voice: work, children, making more babies. None of this is conscious, of course. It's simply our human way of surviving, of coping, of calling a different outcome into being. Because at the end of the day, who doesn't want to be the princess of a happily-ever-after love story?
But my dear—this journey isn't about being a pretty princess draped in her beautiful white wedding dress. This journey is about embracing the queen that you are. And a queen doesn't arrive wearing virginal white.
Instead, she comes wrapped in flowing golden silk that catches the light with every breath, the fabric moving like molten gold around her form. Her gown trails behind her in waves of luminous gold, adorned with precious jewels of every color that tell the story of every lesson learned, every tear transformed into wisdom.
She wears a crown that cannot be removed by any man or woman, carrying a staff forged from strength, courage, and the fierce desire to love and choose herself first and foremost. She radiates with the inner fire of a goddess who has walked through darkness and emerged illuminated.
I'm not here to advocate for divorce—not at all. I still believe in the sacred vow of marriage and family. I never wanted divorce. I, too, wanted a fairytale ending.
Unfortunately, in today's society with so many distractions and challenges, divorce is the reality of half of all marriages—millions of women around the world.
What I'm here for, is truth.
And sometimes the journey of walking in truth requires the holy act of burning away all that no longer serves your highest good.
If you are reading this because of those small intuitive nudges you have been silencing for days, months, or even years—welcome.
I'm here to remind you that this is only the beginning of the most transformational journey of your life. Painful at times, yes—but beautiful and holy in its calling to become the queen you were always meant to be.
Step forward and take your throne baby girl.
What would it mean for you to stop silencing that small voice within, and instead, lean in close enough to hear what sacred truth it's been trying to whisper?